SPOILERS: Read Holly’s love story right here. And find out her answers to popular Christian dating questions like are there actually any guys who prioritize purity and do guys ever just want to be friends?

Hey sweet friends! I’m super excited to introduce Holly who is one of the sweetest young, married women out there that I have come across! Her heart for the Lord, for her husband and her family radiates and shines through and through. And it was so much fun interviewing her for her advice on life, love and dating. But before we get started, I felt that it would be fitting to let you know straight off the bat what questions I have asked, so that you can easily scroll to the ones you would be most interested in without having to read them all — but I do highly recommend reading all these super awesome responses to some of the most popular Christian dating questions!

The ‘Get to Know’ Holly’s Love Story Questions

1. What was your God written love story like?
2. How did you know that your S/O was “the one”?
3. What did your significant other look for in his future spouse? 
4. What are the biggest challenges that you’ve faced as a married couple? And how did you overcome them (if you have!) 

6 Popular Christian Dating Questions Answered…

1. Do guys ever ‘just want to be friends?’
2. Are there actually any guys who prioritize purity? 
3. How can you tell if a guy is interested in you? 
4. Does it matter how long you date before you get married?
5. What does it look like for a man to intentionally pursue you? And does it look any differently once you are married?  
6. Has your perspective of what you would look for in a man changed from when you were dating to the advice you would give your kids in the future (now that you are married?) 

So that is a set of pretty awesome Christian dating questions! You’re definitely in for a super fun, faith-filled time!

‘Get to Know’ Holly’s Love Story Questions

1. What is your God-written love story? 

My ultimate love story is with my God and Saviour. It is truly the only one that matters and carries me through ALL the relationships in my life, including my marriage. 

You see, my past is riddled with hurts and hangups that sabotaged my ability to have healthy relationships. As a child, my parents divorced before my first birthday and I struggled with insecurities, abuse, anxiety, and depression due to unhealthy relationships, addiction among my parents, infidelity, and my own personal bad choices.

In college, God chased after my heart and made it whole. HE is the only one that could come into my life and COMPLETELY restore it. HE is the only one that can do that. Not my husband. 

After I gave my life to the Lord, I gave up seeking a man to complete me and after much trial and error, I stumbled across the man I now call my soulmate. The day I met my husband, a complete stranger, I challenged him on his faith and said whoever I would marry would come 2nd to God-always. He humbly agreed and said the same. Our lives, marriage, and parenting are built on this principle. 

2. How did you know that your S/O was ‘the one’

OHHH, this one is so God appointed. We met when I was 24 years old. I was actually in a relationship with someone and it ended a few weeks later (the end was coming and we both knew it). While in this previous relationship, we both struggled to find a middle ground and my heart was constantly struggling with anxiety, anger, discontent, and discord. I was selfish. I couldn’t see it at this point in time but in retrospect, it was the driving force that destroyed every relationship before I met my husband. 

However, my current husband was the first person to waltz into my life and slowly chip away my heart of stone. It is also important to mention that I gave up pursuing men at this point (remember I was in a previous relationship that left me bitter and angry) and gave it to God. After a turbulent year-long relationship and a life of racing after men to “fulfill” me; I was done. 

My husband pursued my heart relentlessly and with true affection. God knew I needed this.

As we slowly courted one another, all the things that used to get under my skin in past relationships were non-issues! It was as if in the past I had just been looking for excuses OR the Holy Spirit nudging me… “Hey Holly, this isn’t the one. Walk away.”

We both said I love you on the same day! I vividly remember a conversation with my friend on that exact day, I said “I think he is the one! I love him!”

3. What did your significant other look for in his future spouse? 

I asked my husband and he responded with “I didn’t know what I wanted but I knew it was you.”  

I would equate that with Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

The Lord made it very clear in his heart because he TRUSTED God’s plan and listened for HIS voice. He said God told him that he should marry me. In summary, seek a man who is seeking God FIRST.

4. What are the biggest challenges that you’ve faced as a married couple? And how did you overcome them (if you have!) 

We will be married ten years total in November 2020. In 2019, my husband was diagnosed with cancer. At this point in our lives together, we had four children, a home, a business, and community. Everything could have fallen into a big heap of chaos but since we were rooted in Christ and HIS plan for our lives, we were not shaken and took each day at a time. 

Tip No. 1: prayer, worship, read God’s word, seek fellowship/Godly counsel, repeat.

Tip No. 2: You are NOT in control. Trust God.

Today, my husband is in full remission, and life has recommenced, but with a new attitude of gratitude. It is part of our testimony and you can read more on my website.

6 Popular Christian Dating Questions Answered…

1. Do guys ever ‘just want to be friends?’

Again, I deferred to my husband, and the response was an immediate “no”.  My answer would also be “no”. Men are not wired like us and God did not create us to be attracted in the same ways. We can, however, be acquaintances, co-workers, and serve along with one another. 

As much as I have tried to ONLY be friends with certain guys I could always feel a tug to be “more”. If you want to be friends with guys then always keep it in a group environment aka avoid being alone with someone of the other sex to avoid romantic environments. If the other sex wants to be alone with you – they are interested in being more than friends (or maybe seeking ulterior motives). My advice would be to either pursue that with a biblical relationship or shut it down quickly and honestly. 

Disclaimer: This is a blanket statement that does not cover all the different caveats, relationships, and circumstances that could occur between opposite sex situations. I understand that you could be “just friends” with certain people but for the basis of seeking a significant other combined with my life experiences, this is a very quick explanation that I would also give to my daughters. 

2. Are there actually any guys who prioritize purity? 

Yes, they are still out there. However, do not rely on them to hold that bar all by themselves. Make your intentions clear and create a margin to keep that bar. If they truly are seeking holy matrimony, they will honor your wish to stay pure. 

I will also add this piece of advice from my own mother that helped keep my path clear when I decided to pursue purity – again. “Do not waste your time (or his) with someone you do not plan on marrying.”

3. How can you tell if a guy is interested in you? 

It depends on your different personalities but ultimately he pursues you – calls, texts, arranges dates, and wants to get to know you more. He will want you to meet his family, friends, and share his interests with a humble spirit that is inclusive, not decisive. 

4. Does it matter how long you date before you get married? 

Short answer – maybe not as long as you think.

We met, started dating, got engaged, and were married within a total of 12 months. He proposed to me within two months of dating and we were married nine months later.

I know several other women in the same boat. 

They sought God first. 

They dated many Godly men beforehand.

Then just “knew” it was the right man this time because they were pursuing God.

Got married ASAP to keep their purity.

5. What does it look like for a man to intentionally pursue you? And does it look any differently once you are married?  

The pursuit is different when you first get to know each other vs marriage. The flame of falling in love and the flutters in your stomach start to die down after you say “I do”. You have to consciously and intentionally create opportunities to pursue one another. Make date nights a priority. Learn your appropriate love languages. My husband’s love language is touch and mine is quality time. We both have had to adjust our languages due to parenting and home obligations but we know that our relationship comes 2nd to God yet before our children.

6. Has your perspective of what you would look for in a man changed from when you were dating to the advice you would give your kids in the future (now that you are married?) 

Yes, I pursued men based on the emptiness I needed to fill in my heart. I sought out vanity, popularity, and was a sucker for the bad boys trying to be good boys. I wouldn’t listen to good counsel. 

As a parent, I have and will continue to provide biblical truths to my children. Explaining that anyone they may be interested in should first and foremost love Jesus Christ. Then that person and them as well should shower him/her with love and respect. Honor them. Also, our approval is important and our role right now is to guide them in making righteous choices based on God’s promises through their obedience. 

Meet Holly!

Hi, I’m Holly – a wife, mom, and creative. I enjoy crafting our legacy digitally. You can normally find me serving our family of six or behind the screen. I love all things Bible and tech-related. My ministry is sharing the why and how of living life intentionally through your faith and technology. You can catch up with us over at www.knittingourstory.com 

Email: holly@knittingourstory.com

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